Outlining a Personal Roadmap - First Define your Wants

Most people are able to plainly tell me what it is that they do not want, prefer not to see, hear or feel. I often take them through an exercise, leveraging the negatives to arrive at the positives by creating clear contrasts between what is undesirable and what would be more satisfying. Follow these ideas and do it for yourself.

You cannot define what you want unless you clarify vague ideas and specify the outcomes you actually desire clearly. Furthermore, unless you also explore the reasons why you wish to have these things, the path ahead may be full of pitfalls.

Thus, if you are able to spell out what you have and why you no longer want that, but are unable to clearly articulate that which would be more fulfilling, then this exercise could be of value to you. Delving into what you define as troublesome can allow you to come to grips with what you would actually like to achieve.

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Knowing your Purpose and Finding Meaning in Life

If life is a journey involving many different areas of your life, how can you then search for purpose in one place only? You are not only your career, or your hobby, or your relationship, or your home, or your behavior or your emotions. Perhaps that is why it can be such a challenge when searching for meaning in life.

And to discover the deeper aspirations that ignite within us a passion to embrace our desires in their fullest in all the spaces that we inhabit.

Discovering your purpose is integral to your life’s journey – unless you give it the time and attention that it deserves, you may for the rest of your days suspect that there may be more to life and that you have a purpose that is bigger or different than what you imagined it to be.

The world and all the people that inhabit this planet can be compared to an intricately woven tapestry – a work in progress, one that started long ago and will continue until Clotho grows tired of spinning the thread of life. If you and I are only little specs in this tapestry, why would it then make a difference whether you choose to live with or without purpose or meaning?

Life is ultimately about happiness and fulfilment, don't you think?

Would you not agree that the little space you and I occupy should be important?

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Creating a New and Heartfelt Mindset

Your mental disposition, in my view, is the single most important factor in the search for happiness. Note that I simply use the term happiness, not purpose, aspirations, beliefs, values, goals or motivation. With words like these we complicate things for ourselves and place obstacles in our own way. In the end, is happiness not the ultimate result we all desire? Even if we define what happiness is totally differently.

Should you wonder about your purpose, the meaning of life, who you are, how you can find a truly fulfilling and special relationship, how you can find the right job, make more friends, have more money, be healthier, stop procrastinating, etc., then keep in mind that your thoughts and your feelings about your thoughts will determine what type of answers you will find.

Honing in on Happiness

If you continuously tell yourself “I will be happy when …” then the chance of achieving happiness is slim.

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Well-being depends on viewing emotions as helpful pointers

Emotions are often regarded as a curse, especially if it is regarded as negative and unwanted. Sharing those feelings with others are frequently avoided, not to risk being seen as weak or lacking confidence, self-control or the ability to withstand everyday pressures. However, should you rather view these feelings as signals and not labels, you open up ways to work towards eliminating them by dealing with the underlying causes.

In this way you can take charge of your mental well-being and also make gains in your physical health.

Negative labeling

People are often called “emotional” and the tone with which the word is expressed, is usually quite condescending or even insulting. The implied meaning is that they are not in control of their feelings and they are labeled incapable of considering situations and facts in objectively or to make decisions logically and in an emotionally detached manner.

Husbands may call their wives “over-emotional” or vice versa, and in the workplace people just love calling others emotional. Being so labeled can can become an obstacle  to developing true intimacy in a marriage, good relationships with your children or advancing in your career.

What an irony that the unconscious motive behind labeling others in this way usually involves emotion! Fear, anger, annoyance, helplessness and even guilt may trigger the accusation.

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At your core you have beauty. At your core rests the voice for guidance, insight and wisdom.  Awakening this voice creates the certainty that you can direct yourself in an uncertain world.

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